The solitary nature of the act of reading has never stopped our love of reading from proving inherently social. Readers connect with stories, and those stories in turn connect people in new ways. There’s a unique glimmer when two readers realize they share a literary connection, which can spark a passionate discussion about a story they both love.
Book lovers manifest their passion in countless ways—look to the proliferation of Booktok for a macro example. Then there’s Goodreads and Storygraph, social media platforms built around a communal admiration of the written word. On a more granular level, there are book clubs and buddy reads, both great ways to share in the joy of reading with others.
I’ve dipped my toes into many of these waters—including a short stint with Booktok (I got the hell out after a few months), occasional buddy reads, and a weird fascination with Goodreads (I like it when the number goes up, okay?).
But one method of making my reading hobby more social really clicked for me in the past year: book trades. I am quite literally 100% certain I am not the first person to think of and/or do this, but I wish to share it with you in case it fits your unique reading habits as well as it does for me.
Introducing the BOOK TRADE.
Is it a book club? A buddy read? No, but it draws inspiration from each of these, lowering the stakes and fueling the ever-growing proliferation of word-of-mouth book recs.
The book trade first surfaced as a viable plan for me when I discovered many of my reader friends had wildly different tastes in books (revolutionary, I know). Despite there being only a sliver of overlap in our respective Venn diagrams, I’d notice friends reading books I had never (1) heard of at all, or (2) wanted to read, and it made me curious. I reached out to three such friends and proposed book trades. I selected a book for them to read, and they did the same for me. We agreed on a deadline (a few months) by which we both had to read our selections. Here’s how it shook out.
- Book trade 1: Cole reads A Court of Thorns and Roses; Sarah Reads Mistborn: The Final Empire
- Book trade 2: Cole reads The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo; Stacy reads The Lies of Locke Lamora
- Book trade 3: Cole reads A Thousand Splendid Suns; Sher reads The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet
On the off chance anyone reading this follows my book-related work either here or at The Quill To Live, they’ll likely notice these books are decidedly off the beaten path when it comes to my usual reading preferences. I’m a high fantasy, big sci-fi kind of guy, and these books—a literary fiction, a romantasy, and a historical fiction—fall far enough outside of my usual wheelhouse that I normally wouldn’t have considered diving in.
And that’s exactly the point. The reason I love book trades so much. They broaden two horizons at once, and often in different directions.
In some cases, this broadening was by just a smidge. I didn’t like A Court of Thorns and Roses one bit. I like Evelyn Hugo more than ACOTAR, but not by much. Still, both books served as a notch in my literary utility belt, and I’m glad I read them—it’s always good to get a new perspective and something to discuss with readers who love different styles from the ones to which I gravitate.
Sarah, for her part, was an excellent sport. We argued at a friend’s wedding over the worldbuilding of Sarah J. Maas’s series. I explained that I look for huge worlds with diverse cultures and deep magic and lore. Sarah, for her part, responded that Maas’s series has all of that, and I struggled to articulate the difference between ACOTAR and my typical epic fantasy reads.
Until Sarah read Mistborn, that is. She loved the book and even went on to finish the series. She also said, and I quote, “I can see myself reading all of these” when I sent her my Cosmere reading order. We both emerged with a new understanding of an unfamiliar subgenre and while those understandings were different—mine an acknowledgment that this particular book didn’t hit the sweet spot for me and hers that epic fantasy can have many of the things she loves in a story—we both grew as readers.
Next, a brief pit stop to discuss my book trade with Stacy. (I am just now realizing all three traders had names starting with “S.” I wonder if that is cosmically significant somehow. Anyway…)
Stacy assigned me her favorite book, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid. I give Stacy all the props in the world because she took my less-than-glowing reactions to the book like a champ. Though I didn’t like it, I did gain a better understanding of Stacy as a reader. She has read a whole bunch of my recommendations, including a deep dive into the Cosmere. She often criticizes epic fantasy (even when she generally likes the book) for taking “too long to get going.” As a fan of big ol’ books with hundreds of pages of worldbuilding, I never understood exactly what she meant. And then I read Evelyn Hugo and it clicked. The book launched directly into its story within a few pages, and the hooks were in, even if the result was (by my estimate) lackluster. I still enjoy the long sections of lore in my books, but I can tailor my recommendations to Stacy much better with this lesson learned.
I can’t comment on Stacy’s reaction to The Lies of Locke Lamora yet because she has yet to read it. Stay tuned!
Finally, we come to Sher. If the measure of success is how much each person liked their book, then this book trade was a home run. Sher loved The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet, regularly texting me updates and jokes and questions about it. Readers who recommend books to friends know that unique spark of elation that comes with positive feedback about a book you love. I returned the favor while reading A Thousand Splendid Suns, a gorgeous book about two Afghan women whose lives are interlaced by tragedy.
I left my book trades feeling eager for more. I’ve tried book clubs; they didn’t stick. One (at work) featured memoir after memoir; I couldn’t do it. Book trades reinvigorated that distinct sense of sharing something you love with someone else and learning more about them in turn.
I hope anyone who loves book clubs, buddy reads, or any other social reading-related events will continue doing them, of course. But if you’re a reader who hasn’t found something that clicks like book clubs do for others, give book trades a try! You might be surprised by what you find.
Cole Rush writes words. A lot of them. For the most part, you can find those words at The Quill To Live. He voraciously reads epic fantasy and science fiction, seeking out stories of gargantuan proportions and devouring them with a bookwormish fervor. His favorite books are the Divine Cities Series by Robert Jackson Bennett, The Long Way To A Small, Angry Planet by Becky Chambers, and The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune.
I was invited to join a small (10 women) book club in 2022, and decided to give it a shot. We all take turns recommending books. We meet at the distillery, take turns bringing food, and discuss the books. We have read everything: literary fiction, historical fiction, YA, fantasy, s/f, poetry, nonfiction…We range in age from 30’s to 70’s (me). I think I learn a lot, even from books I hate (7 Husbands, ick!) I will leave the book club when the last book drops from my cold dead hands.
I was in a book club where the members took turns to choose the books. Sadly I was the only fan of SFF and found myself choosing books outside that genre because the others simply didn’t enjoy my choices otherwise. The only book that a couple of the members enjoyed was The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell. The others again didn’t like it and I felt they were biased before they even began reading my choices. I’ve since left the book club because it just wasn’t a good fit for me.
When I think of book swaps I think of when I was a child and every time my mother’s friends came over they would arrive with paper grocery bags full of books. Everyone would pile the books within on the table and they would re-sort them into new piles while chattering about them. “You take this one because it’s the sequel to the one you took last month. This one is great, That one is slow but the payoff is worth it.” Once the piles were redistributed to their satisfaction and returned to the paper bags conversation would move on. All the women were on tight budgets and every book was valued and shared widely.
Not for me I’m afraid. I just can’t bring myself to pass on books to anyone.
The one time I loaned someone a book, The Hobbit, I never got it back. It was a rather old edition, needless to say I’m still fuming about it.
#3: Mmm. I totally get that reaction, but I don’t think that’s what’s meant by “trade” in this case. If I were trying this idea, my recipient and I would buy each other copies of the respective books to avoid exactly that problem (not least because of the likelihood that at least one of us will want to hold onto both titles anyway).
This would never work for me. I’m a solitary person by nature and reading, movies and music are all things I’ve only ever been able to enjoy alone. When I was younger I saw a lot of movies with friends and girlfriends and enjoyed the odd mix tape given to me by women who wanted to give me “the hint” but I’ve never had any kind sufficient overlap in taste to share my own cultural interests with anyone else. My taste is pretty idiosyncratic and all over the past few centuries while I’m also seemingly allergic to the majority of new pop culture and no, it’s not an age thing. It may strike most people as odd but I very content with the situation.
I do value other people’s insights and am always on the lookout for something new and interesting so I read a lot of reviews by professional writers as well as the comments section of the better websites such as this one. Good Reads doesn’t particularly work for me and I’d rather have root canals on every tooth in my mouth than endure the babblings of the BookTok crowd for even a second. I just don’t feel the need for any kind of community. Never have. I loooove curling up alone with a book alone save for the company of a cat or two on my lap.
Reading is also too much of a time commitment for me to risk on a book that someone wants to thrust upon me and I’d also never trust ANYONE with one of my books (or CDs or DVDs, ask any of my former girlfriends). It’s great that this worked out for you and it does sound like a far better option than those dreadful book clubs so best of luck to you in spreading the idea around. I’ve known more than a few people who tried clubs and quickly bailed on them because…well…people.
Book trades were a thing such a long time ago. I think they existed before Amazon. There were several I used but the one name I remember is book mooch.
I get the best of both worlds by being a member of a Silent Book Club. We meet once a month (usually at a bar or restaurant but sometimes a public space if it’s a daytime meeting), everyone brings their own book which we read silently for an hour, then we go around and talk about what we’re reading. It’s a book club for introverts really, and you can get ideas without feeling forced to read any one particular thing.
I love my Goodreads genre reading group for online, and for in person, Silent Book Club really is the only “club” I’ve ever managed to stick with and actually enjoy.
Huh, Cole just put a name to what my husband and I do together (and with a few friends): book trades! That goes for extended family as well (his sister, brothers, and their spouses are all avid readers of diverse genres). It’s not unusual for family members to discuss and recommend books in our group video chats.
I’ve hosted “Bring your own Book” discussions in which each member shares their current read or something they’re read and enjoyed. Notetakers make lists of books discussed.
So that‘s what that‘s called. We just started a breakfast bookclub at work in December and we swap. I read Matt Haig‘s Midnight Library over Christmas. I would have never bought that for myself. Too popular. It was really good. And now I‘m halfway through Never by Ken Follett and I‘m really enjoying it. And that‘s usually not my genre. Looking forward to the comments of my colleagues about the books I gave them.
I am not scared about not getting the books back. And even if I don‘t, they are just things. Well, ok, I would be sad not to get my nice illustrated hardback of Spear by Nicola Griffith back.
#6 Jean, yes, I also used Bookmooch. And Book crossing. And 20 years ago we had a bookswapping shelf in the office.
The diversity of literary tastes (and reading speeds) in my circles made me adhere to a different type of book club: we choose a theme, usually something abstract — happiness, conscience, friendship, hope — and everyone reads whatever book they like that fits the theme as they understand it. Then we get together and each person tells the group about their chosen book, what it is about and how they think it fits the theme. (Making Fellowhip of the Ring fit under “goals and planning” was a favorite of mine)